The Maximalist

Now that we are “adults,” I find that a lot of people want to leave a grand impact on the world. This passion for change–almost always–comes from a good place, but how effectively do we enact it? Over the past four or so years, I have noticed that it has become very popular to always get involved in the most recent controversies in one specific way: Instagram stories. But how helpful is this?

I have fallen into this trap before. Weirdly, it sometimes feels easier to only comment and performatively post about something that is out of our control. You still get this feeling that you have made a difference–even though, in my opinion, you really haven’t.

So, what does making a real difference look like? I believe that it is in the small actions that we can control. You have little to no impact or control over issues that have millions–if not billions–of stakeholders. But, you can and do impact the lives of those who are around you. These small actions do leave a lasting impact on the people with whom you interact.

I have had this Aha! moment over the past few years after experiencing and doing these small, deliberate actions. Here are a few examples.

An older friend, Marcia, whom I met while attending mass over the past few years, is the kind of person that I try to be. She always is excited to see you, lends a helping hand to others and takes an active interest in your life. The little things, like how she remembers your hobbies, passions and other details, about your life always leave you feeling happy. I have experienced Marcia’s warmth and her seemingly small caring acts can turn my and anyone’s day around in an instant.

While I was traveling over break, I went to a small Parisian cafe every day I was in Amsterdam. I got to know the owner, and he ended up bringing me behind the counter to teach me how to make a 10/10 crepe. This did not require immense effort on his part, but I will never forget this experience and it remains one of my favorite parts of the trip.

I have tried to be like Marcia and Sebastien in my own life. While at home, I try to do the little things that often go overlooked. I do the dishes, help fold laundry and clean up after our dogs. My parents were genuinely thankful when I did this because even though it was not life-changing, it made their lives a bit easier.

All that to say, I think you should focus on the little things. Say hi to the person next to you in line. Hug your friends and family. These little things can make a big difference in someone’s day and have a much larger impact than you could imagine.